When I talk about listening to your heart – what I really mean is, think critically about what you’re hearing and how you’re interpreting or attributing it.
Are you being completely honest, partially honest, or, lying to yourself altogether?
I was asked recently, “How do you know the difference between your heart’s desires and just wanting to act on impulses”?
Great question! And, I’m not sure there is a difference.
Sometimes being impulsive or feeling compelled to do something, pushes you closer to happiness and alignment. Sometimes doing nothing at all, just being still, affords you the time to think long and hard about your heart’s desires. That is unless you’re using the still time to self loathe… no no no!!! That’s not you is it? Remember how awesome you are!
Maybe your heart’s desires include feeling peaceful about your career choice, maybe they’re aspirations of falling in love with the man or woman of your dreams whether you’ve met them or not, getting married, or getting out of a relationship your heart isn’t in anymore to realize your truth.
It could be the promotion you’ve worked so hard for finally coming to pass, your health improving, your income changing for the better, rescuing animals, advocating for something (for me it’s kids), being the best mom or dad on the planet, or simply, finding peace. Maybe it’s to travel the world, buy a house, star in a movie or climb Mt. Everest! Maybe, j u s t maybe… it’s all of the above!
Remember the goal here, is happiness. How do you become the happiest person you know?
I believe your heart, er’ you, know what you really want. But I also believe you have the ability to lie to it. Manipulate it. You can certainly talk yourself into something unrealistic by having an over exaggerated sense of your talents (for example, if you can NOT sing, not even a note, you’ll never win American Idol – you’re not listening to your heart, your lying to it). You can also talk yourself out of chasing a dream or desire actually within your reach – that can make you happy.
Sharp conversational turn here.
I can’t stress enough for my married readers that separation and divorce are not to be taken lightly. If you’re reading this blog with thoughts of ending your marriage, read carefully. If you want to take your life, (and for a while) turn it to shit emotionally, financially, and professionally; put your spouse through the same shit, ditto for your kids, for your in-laws, your parents, siblings, and friends, then you better get real comfy with change and the phrase, no regrets. That’s divorce. Even the most amicable ones, like mine.
Off my divorce soapbox (for) now.
Take a close listen to your heart, then, think critically. You’ll hear the answers soon enough. Doesn’t mean you (believe you) can or, will listen, let alone be open to change and ultimately, alignment. Listening also means, acknowledging the hard work that comes with aligning your life.
You have to make changes in order to realize that what you heard will actually make youhappier. That’s alignment.
Think about it.
More to come,
Tanya B.
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