Read on redbookmag.com recently, that blogging is, (and I’m paraphrasing here) like “flinging your diary open for the world to see”.
Not sure a better analogy exists.
I’ve blogged for years. Mostly professional pieces focused on the high-end, exclusive, country club industry. Even became a specialist, consulting for some of the most luxurious clubs in the world. But these days, I’m blogging about personal/anecdotal, motivational stuff. It’s surprising how much you learn about you when you put yourself out there. Here goes (gulp).
As an adolescent thinking about how my future might play out, I certainly saw marriage, butnever imagined divorcing after 17 years of it, or becoming a mother of four (two are mine, two are my fiancés), and certainly never imagined that I wouldn’t be living in New York by now, editor of some hip news rag. Wrote my first article when I was eight, and later became editor of my junior college paper, so of course I was going to grow up to be a writer :-).
Looking back on my 41 years, (you know from earlier posts), I’ve suffered tremendous loss. Both parents, four of my siblings, the only grandmother I knew, an aunt and an uncle, have all died. Each of them passed from various illnesses including the big C (breast and pancreatic). I can tell you first hand, the grieving and coping process is B R U T A L. It can last years and years, and in my case, still lingers.
But, on the upside, I became a provincial championship dancer, trained in three types of classical ballet, danced with a ballet company at 12, modeled, did the pageant thing (that’s for another blog), and later, went on to put myself through college.
None of those things would be possible without the love and support from an amazing family. My surviving sisters are survivors. My heroes. They both embody the word, matriarch. No one can give you a reality check or a piece of humble pie like these two ladies!
And friends. Wow, do I have some amazing friends. Seriously. I just need to touch my heart and close my eyes for a minute… There, thought of each and every one them just then and smiled. So thankful.
I’ve also experienced significant career successes. I became a journalist, worked more than a decade in marketing and public relations, successfully launched two businesses, and on an even more personal note, am blessed to truly love and, be loved.
Yes, at 41 years young, I have a surprisingly critical, and yet deep understanding about what’s important in life given all my tragedies and triumphs.
It’s happiness. Not moments of greatness… just a steady stream of contentment.
I have happiness now because I started changing my life to closer align with my heart’s desires. I’m a becoming a better everyone now. Better mom, better sister, better friend, better colleague, and yes, soon, a better wife. It’s an organic process.
Try writing in your diary. That’s when your heart starts speaking. And with any luck, you’ll start listening. Get to know YOU.
More to come,
Tanya B.
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