by tanyabittner | Aug 8, 2015 | Thoughts & Desires
If it feels like you’re forcing it – you probably are and, should probably stop. Whether it’s trying (so hard) to convince someone to finally acknowledge your skills and talent or pushing too hard for love and affection from someone you’re in a one-sided relationship with – STOP.
When you stop forcing your energy away, hence giving up your power, you’ll start to feel the force and power of your energy.
You are capable and deserving of success. You are capable and deserving of deep love. Shifting your energy in a new direction isn’t quitting, it isn’t packing up your tent and going home. It’s finding a new home.
Plants won’t grow in polluted soil but when they’re replanted in healthier soil, they thrive!
If you’re not getting the nutrients you need to grow and develop, cut yourself some slack, redirect that energy toward finding a better environment, then get down to work realizing your heart’s desires. It’s always about alignment.
More to come,
Tanya B.
by tanyabittner | Jul 27, 2015 | Today
Specifically, what desires are in that beautiful heart of yours today? And now, what thoughts are swirling around in your mind? Do your heart and mind align or are you having an internal conflict with yourself?
Heart says, “I want this”, stubborn mind says, “You’ll never get it”.
I challenge you to make one deliberate, intentional move in your heart’s favor today.
Watch as your mind quickly catches up to support it :).
More to come,
Tanya B.
by tanyabittner | Jul 18, 2015 | Thoughts & Desires
The concept of authenticity is thrown around a lot. There’s this universal idea or notion that you’re living “authentically” if you’re being honest with yourself.
“To thine own self be true.” Thank you Shakespeare.
I struggle with this MeNtAl impression of the concept because it seems contemplative; as though you’re just thinking about being authentic.
To me, it’s more authentic to (get to) know and understand the real you and then live that real you inwardly and outwardly. Easier said than done sometimes… I. Get. It.
It’s great to have a genuine self connection. But it’s gratifying to have a genuine connection with someone else!
How can you do that if you’re living authentically in private? Cue more Shakespeare:
“And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man”.
I am not saying you have to live your life publicly for it to be authentic or real. Despite my blog and social media posts, there are many personality traits, habits, thoughts and behaviors only those closest to me know about. As it should be. I’m talking about something more intense, more human, more… together.
In order to have meaningful, deep connections with people (which is so fulfilling!!) – I think you have to (first) be genuine, with them.
Connectedness leads to openness, leads to forgiveness, leads to compassion… for others. Less disappointment. For you; for them.
Try it… be you. Be real. Connect.
More to come,
Tanya B.
by tanyabittner | Jun 12, 2015 | Today
I’m not sure where you are today (or even where you are right this minute) with your emotional afflictions or contentment. But I figure we can all use a little more encouragement and feeling of togetherness in the best of times and – most certainly – in the worst of times. And there’s good news!
Heartache and euphoria are impermanent.
I’m not saying you can’t be a happy person who has sad days. Of course you can. And I think that’s most of us. I’m saying it’s unrealistic to think you should or even could live in an intense state of rapture every day – just as it would be particularly unhealthy to live in a depressed state for any length of time.
For example, when I recently saw a gift my husband bought me, I literally jumped for joy! And my cheeks hurt for a good 15 minutes or so before I settled into the feeling and was just peaceful. I didn’t walk around for days with an elated sensation… I was just untroubled and tranquil knowing he loved me so much.
I’ve lost siblings and both my parents. Some of my darkest years. Notice I said years… Those gripping feelings of loss come rushing back if I let them, they’re just under the surface. But they do soften… I do function. I don’t live curled up in a ball on the floor.
Don’t get me wrong, I wrestle with hooks just like you. Circumstances and people can really tick me off. Yep, there’s another one… anger. Also fleeting. These emotions simply don’t stick around too long. They pass.
Accepting that they will indeed pass lessens the sharpness of the moment. You can’t just walk around with your feelings, reactions, and responses ping-ponging all over the place. That’s not good for you or the people you love.
I try to take hold of my emotions and thoughts right when I wake up. My husband hears me mumble each morning, “I’m not finished praying… five more minutes…” as he’s trying to rouse me from sleep.
My very best days happen when I pray or meditate before I ever get vertical. It centers me; prepares me for the uncertainty of the day.
Prepare yourself for the uncertainties of the day ahead.
I’ve also found inspiration and peace from conceptual, honest talks with my husband. And I’m fascinated by buddhist teachings and readings from aspirational leaders. I also find relief in yoga, long runs on the beach, visits with friends/family and therapists… because who doesn’t love therapy!?
I do “whatever it takes” to awaken my heart and align (many times re-align) my day around its desires. Come. What. May. I enjoy living my best life. It’s far from perfect but it pleases me. There’s a calm in the center of the chaos that circles my life. Coming back to neutral is easier than you think… You can do it!
The extreme highs don’t define you – don’t expect to stay there – it’s not reality and you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment. The lows don’t define you either – you’re better than that. Absolutely stay in those moments of learning or healing as long as you need to but don’t live there… pick yourself up :).
More to come,
Tanya B.
by tanyabittner | May 29, 2015 | Today
It’s easy to be spun up into the hornet nest of life sometimes isn’t it? The weeks leading into Summer are especially hectic with plays, recitals, finals, farewell parties, promotions and more. Adding in careers, tying off or in some cases, tying up loose ends of divorce, managing health, planning vacations and camps and the usual day-to-day domestic odds and ends that pile up and yep, you’ve got yourself a hornet nest!
Believe it or not you can be calm in the middle of that pandemonium.
It’s like homeostasis… the ability to maintain an internal balance while your external environment is changing (thank you Mr. Fowler – 10th Grade Biology). Truth is, it’s just life. People, unforeseen circumstances, and competing priorities are always going to be analogous to an intermittent buzzing.
Keep a keen ear on what your heart is telling you; what it desires. Remember your North Star.
Make choices that align with your honest heart.
Thank goodness it’s Friday ~ more to come,
Tanya B.
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