I’m not sure where you are today (or even where you are right this minute) with your emotional afflictions or contentment. But I figure we can all use a little more encouragement and feeling of togetherness in the best of times and – most certainly – in the worst of times. And there’s good news!
Heartache and euphoria are impermanent.
I’m not saying you can’t be a happy person who has sad days. Of course you can. And I think that’s most of us. I’m saying it’s unrealistic to think you should or even could live in an intense state of rapture every day – just as it would be particularly unhealthy to live in a depressed state for any length of time.
For example, when I recently saw a gift my husband bought me, I literally jumped for joy! And my cheeks hurt for a good 15 minutes or so before I settled into the feeling and was just peaceful. I didn’t walk around for days with an elated sensation… I was just untroubled and tranquil knowing he loved me so much.
I’ve lost siblings and both my parents. Some of my darkest years. Notice I said years… Those gripping feelings of loss come rushing back if I let them, they’re just under the surface. But they do soften… I do function. I don’t live curled up in a ball on the floor.
Don’t get me wrong, I wrestle with hooks just like you. Circumstances and people can really tick me off. Yep, there’s another one… anger. Also fleeting. These emotions simply don’t stick around too long. They pass.
Accepting that they will indeed pass lessens the sharpness of the moment. You can’t just walk around with your feelings, reactions, and responses ping-ponging all over the place. That’s not good for you or the people you love.
I try to take hold of my emotions and thoughts right when I wake up. My husband hears me mumble each morning, “I’m not finished praying… five more minutes…” as he’s trying to rouse me from sleep.
My very best days happen when I pray or meditate before I ever get vertical. It centers me; prepares me for the uncertainty of the day.
Prepare yourself for the uncertainties of the day ahead.
I’ve also found inspiration and peace from conceptual, honest talks with my husband. And I’m fascinated by buddhist teachings and readings from aspirational leaders. I also find relief in yoga, long runs on the beach, visits with friends/family and therapists… because who doesn’t love therapy!?
I do “whatever it takes” to awaken my heart and align (many times re-align) my day around its desires. Come. What. May. I enjoy living my best life. It’s far from perfect but it pleases me. There’s a calm in the center of the chaos that circles my life. Coming back to neutral is easier than you think… You can do it!
The extreme highs don’t define you – don’t expect to stay there – it’s not reality and you’re just setting yourself up for disappointment. The lows don’t define you either – you’re better than that. Absolutely stay in those moments of learning or healing as long as you need to but don’t live there… pick yourself up :).
More to come,
Tanya B.
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