Hiya đ
Welcome back! You’ve probably noticed I’ve moved on from the, “you can do it”, “your future is bright”, “the world is your oyster, go get it” posts. Not that there’s anything wrong with those types of junior motivational messages, but you’re more sophisticated than that now. I can tell. You’ve evolved with me, and we’re six years into this practice of alignment, positivity and peace! Six years! Wowzie. You’re needing something a lot more introspective, relatable, and tangible. Because, you’re introspective, relatable, and tangible đ.
I haven’t abandoned my writings on blended families either! That will be a cornerstone of everything I/we create because our families are forever blended and, there are so many nuances to divorced and remarried life there’s just no way anyone can traverse these peaks and valleys without extra doses of strength and grace (ha!). I need it. You need it.
We ALL need help. Especially single moms. I have e x t r a compassion for you.
But, right now our latest strength and grace âneedâ, is around the kids heading to college. Actually, wait. No.
Whatâs maybe even more important is, some of the kids are entering the: Iâm an 18 year old, I can go wherever I want and see whichever parent I want, whenever I want, phase of âlife after divorceâ. And, itâs fucking glorious. I can already tell how Karma will likely either settle her scores or cash-out with those who’ve made the real sacrifices. Wonder where the kids will choose to be on holidays and summer breaks đ¤…
Anyway, point is I’m working on new ways to help as we move through the years, together. With new content, a new brand, new direction, even contributors! All of it. In my spare evenings (which Iâm both grateful for and sad about at the same time). Iâm thankful for kid-free, five-hour dance nights, four times a week — where we can dream, strategize, and calendar our goals (ok, I mean have wine đˇ đ). But, seriously weâre also basically empty-nesters in training. Our four kids are in school all day and LITERALLY gone all evening either because they live other places during the school week, or they dance from after school until 9:30 at night (and oftentimes Iâm asleep before they make their way home at 10pm).
See how the topics are changing? These new challenges need to be explored and thoroughly discussed in a thoughtful way, not glossed over. Alas, I promise to revamp the look, feel, purpose and functionality of this site in 2019. We need a more aligned, evolved digital presence with content that marries the blog with my book editing and publishing journey (@thelandofmanywaters).
Weâre at the baby-crawling/infancy stage with this project, but wanted you to know we’re on it. We’re collaborating with an award winning, global branding firm, Partners and Hawes next spring (our first official meeting may even be IN Puerto Vallarta!!) and exciting things and tools are on the horizon for everyone, including you!
Ahhhh, P E A C E. Progress. Iâll take âem both when I can get âem and right now, I got âem âđ˝!
Meantime, let’s talk about REACTIONS. Sorry, sharp convo turn âşď¸.
Ok. Reactions? Why? Weeellll, itâs part of the practice and feels like I should leave you with something to work on after all this reading :). So, you already know that the alignment practice is paying off when you react LESS AND LESS to the negative energy flying at you multiple times a day. Itâs because youâre simply (with great difficulty) staying in your peace lane more often than veering into the fast-paced, fast-reacting, lane.
Right.
Now, I’m not suggesting ever – that you ignore or take on a spectatorâs role in all the negative stuff happening. No. But no matter what youâre going through or who it involves, this practice isnât about âthemâ. Quite the opposite… itâs ALL about, you.
I’m talking about staying in *your* center and in *your* honest ego-less, truth. Ego-Less.
But first, you gotta own your shit darling. You gotta know when you’ve been a jerk. You. Not them. If you carry your head high and never, not once, ever, think you’ve done anything wrong in your past or present, believing you have never been unreasonable, nasty, dishonest, intentionally crossed a line or been manipulative, a day in your life, then you need this community we’re building more than anyone. And, you should probably be in a therapeutic environment â stat.
Disclaimer: Iâm not talking about heavy stuff here like sexual abuse or harassment. If youâre a victim, you are not responsible for anything that happened to you. Thatâs not what this post is about. But we will talk about these issues on the new site. Theyâre close to home.
We need humble healers, broken hearts *and* minds, angry and happy warrior prince and princesses, and all the do-gooders. We even need the, letâs say… expressive and explosive, exes. For example, when cameras are rolling unbeknownst to you, as you’re picking up your kids from your ex’s house and you peel out of his driveway before your kid closes his door, nearly running dad over in the process, you have some *serious healing* to do and self accountability to practice. Donât ever fucking do it again. But, you are still welcome here :).
Ok, carrying on… REACTIONS. You are going to have encounters with people who are more spiritually and emotionally mature than you, and you will come in contact with people who have less spiritual and emotional maturity, than you. We need to engage with both kinds of people to practice. I will tell you first hand, the most mature ones often frustrate me equally as much as they teach me, because they really have their stuff together. Theyâre the obvious teachers, ok.
But the least mature ones are actually the âbest teachersâ! Why? They have no clue what theyâre doing. Theyâre just fire-hosing their shit everywhere leaving you to dodge left, right and center. Leaving you to REACT. To Them. Which is the lesson isnât it… how to react. Well, we start from a place of understanding.
âWe can only control ourselves and meet people as far as they are willing and able to meet us.” – unknown.
Practice for you.
I’ve gotta jet, but can’t wait to come back to you soon! Meantime, follow me on instagram if you haven’t already @media_tanya (oh, that handle’s changing soon too)!
More to come,
Tanya S.
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