Warning: This is a rant of sorts as back-to-school/activities resume – feeling perplexed by the dialogues I’m hearing lately…
Folks are still physically under several feet of water (from hurricanes and flooding) – can you IMAGINE??? Homes and lives are threatened by wild fire, more deadly storms and bizarre weather are in the forecast, people are dying from acts of terrorism, of illness and murder, parents are l o s i n g their children, and 800 thousand more are about to be deported from the US. By a bozo.
And through all this real hardship and devastation happening RIGHT NOW – WE should be helping, praying, lifting each other up – and laser focused on positivity, but instead I’m hearing a lot of folks ridicule, belittle, and blather on-and-on about nonsense – about the exact opposite of hardship and pain – in fact, I’m even witnessing people cause pain. So sad. Stop it already. Please.
I’m not trying to diminish any real problem you’re experiencing or injustice you feel – just want to encourage you to practice finding the positive in any negative situation and to be really careful how you speak to others. “Diminishing another person’s light never makes your shine brighter” – said someone other than me. I want to hear about ways we made a fellow big or little human feel better, helped them to believe in themselves and succeed.
Because, there is more than enough unkindness and hate in the world.
Hearing a lot of resentment and revenge-talk too… breaks my heart and boils my blood. Stop trying to submarine people. It’s just kinda – no, it’s totally – 100 percent, shitty. Oh, and for Pete’s sake, please stop taking advantage of people’s generosity, hard work and contribution they make or the nature of their responsibility “to you” – it’s a short-sighted plan. We’re all connected. #Nothinglastsforever
Vulnerability – it’s actually all the rage right now – it shows character and confidence and leadership.
Of course everyone needs an outlet to get frustrations and hurt feelings off their minds and hearts in order to process and heal. Who doesn’t? I’m doing it now (shrugs meekly). But what is your platform? What are you venting about, really? Is it how horrible someone else is or, is it about the struggle you’re experiencing in our own personal growth, your evolution, your vision, your desire, your wisdom, your lessons (in the mess) your feelings, and the decisions, changes, contributions, advice you’re going to make and give so life (for everyone) can get better?
Change starts with YOU. With SELF.
If you are self-aware enough to embrace that, I want to know you – even deeply. At 44 years young, I am moved by people who have an evolved consciousness and awareness of self and others. People who understand how powerful their words are. This wasn’t me 15 years ago or even 5 years ago, but it IS me now. And if I could say anything to the old me it would be: “Judge less. I forgive you. I’m sorry. Be kinder. Broken hearts – break hearts.”
It’s ok if we’re not aligned spirituality or politically. But at a critical minimum, if we want to connect, if we want to be leaders, we need to think bigger than ourselves in space and time, acknowledge our multiple dimensions, and others’ – and consider how we can help the greater good in our tribe, in our larger circle of friends and family, and then, yes, the world. Why the hell not?
So as this school year leaps out of the gates and us moms, dads, educators and coaches are all thrown back together through activities and holiday functions – if all you do (seriously if it’s all. you. do.) is whine about others, judge, criticize, and blame *everyone* else – then I wish you peace and light but I’ll probs duck from the convo. Go do some good. Lead from within (Lolly Daskal).
More to come,
Tanya S.
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