Cue hand wave – hi there!
Ugh, so sorry it’s been a while since I last posted to my temporary home here on tumblr, but it’s not because I haven’t been writing. Quite the opposite ~ I’ve been super busy with my family the past 30 days or so, making for some great material!
We’ve had plenty of kid activities to juggle, from dance competitions to soccer games, endless driving for the greater good, attorneys, nuances of ex-spouses (not mine), clients (past, present, and future), cultivating new friendships, cooking, cleaning, washing, homework, birthdays, and, and, and, #hashtagyougetthepicture (:
Balancing it all is part of my alignment journey and it feels so good to nurture this family of six. But, I also experienced a health scare. Nothing can make you examine and re-align your desires like staring down the barrel of your own mortality gun. Nothing.
So I’m reminded today of the importance of self. Self-love, self-compassion and self-care. As moms, step-moms, working moms, stay-at-home moms, ex-wives, wives, friends, colleagues, aunts, cousins, daughters, sisters… you name it – we all GIVE. Yes, dads do too.
We give a lot. We also feel guilty if we’re just flat out exhausted, have too much to do with no time to do it, or if we want to eat out instead of home made sometimes – ok – lots of times :-).
Brad and I know what it looks like when our family is thriving – really rocking – when each one of our needs is being met. Our joy revolves around being present as often as we can for each other and living as healthy as we can.
If any one of us is not well rested, well snuggled, well exercised, well nourished, well organized, even well meditated (the kids don’t quite get this concept yet, but they’re beginning to understand quiet time without electronics, *eye roll*), then we just wonder around misplacing items, forgetting to-do’s, feeling disappointed, yelling at the driver of the car in front of us, falling out of turns (dance talk), having bad touches of the soccer ball, missing tender, important, and fun moments and generally, we just run out of patience and steam.
Sound familiar?
I have great news:
1. You’re so not alone. Everyone has a multitude of minor daily irritations mixed in with some humdingers from time to time.
2. There’s wisdom and acceptance in those times. Yes, right there in the middle of all those messy parts is a chance to align.
Here’s the truth, we can’t handle it all without recharging, without self-care. We can’t feel good about needing to recharge without self-compassion. And, we can’t experience self-love if we’re worried about what could happen if we actually do pause to recharge. Worry-less.
There’s something sharp about awakening to the idea that you have to align your life in order to live your best. You need to recalibrate sometimes. Listen to your heart’s desires.
Be intentional always and by any and all means, when confronted with your typical or not-so-typical load of overwhelming situations, let yourself receive in order to give.
Receive a massage, a yoga class, a good talk with a dear friend, a long kiss (my favorite), whatever you need.
Take care of you.
More to come,
Tanya B.
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