The concept of authenticity is thrown around a lot.  There’s this universal idea or notion that you’re living “authentically” if you’re being honest with yourself.

“To thine own self be true.” Thank you Shakespeare.

I struggle with this MeNtAl impression of the concept because it seems contemplative; as though you’re just thinking about being authentic.

To me, it’s more authentic to (get to) know and understand the real you and then live that real you inwardly and outwardly.  Easier said than done sometimes… I. Get. It.

It’s great to have a genuine self connection. But it’s gratifying to have a genuine connection with someone else!

How can you do that if you’re living authentically in private?  Cue more Shakespeare:

“And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man”.

I am not saying you have to live your life publicly for it to be authentic or real.  Despite my blog and social media posts, there are many personality traits, habits, thoughts and behaviors only those closest to me know about.  As it should be.  I’m talking about something more intense, more human, more… together.

In order to have meaningful, deep connections with people (which is so fulfilling!!) – I think you have to (first) be genuine, with them.

Connectedness leads to openness, leads to forgiveness, leads to compassion… for others.  Less disappointment.  For you; for them.

Try it… be you. Be real. Connect.

More to come,

Tanya B.