I’ve been messaged privately through my blog several times over the past few months by women who are actively going through separation or who are in heated, painful conversations with their husbands about divorcing.
Most of my writings are about life after filing for divorce, not about marriages headed for divorce so I’ve really had to examine my replies. Divorce is such a personal experience and I’m just not qualified to advise on how to get there or how to prevent it from happening. Every situation is so nuanced and different. I can say this with confidence though:
Often times the divorce process resembles how the marriage looked.
I’ve said this before in my first post back in 2013 Alignment – “I’m not an advocate of divorce”.
Even if you think you’re ready for it, you’re not. Whether you’re the one initiating divorce, or the one fighting to prevent it, you will experience the following in varying degrees at some point through the process:
- Fear
- Abandonment
- Loss of Control
- Devastation
- Frustration
- Vulnerability
- Betrayal
- Economic Worry
- Lifestyle Changes
- Anger
- New Boundaries
- Inequality
- Inconvenience
- Loneliness
- Bitterness
- Helplessness
- Physical Pain
- Emotional Pain
- Failure
I write about how to deal with and accept the uncertainty of all that.
Sending you light and love in your personal journey.
More to come,
Tanya B.
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