Moms with shared custody, what if you didn’t put a negative spin on everything?
What if you didn’t say:
- Dad never goes to parent/teacher conferences and that’s bad
- Dad doesn’t know who your teachers are and that’s bad
- Dad wants to put his time with you before your friends and activities and that’s bad
And instead, what if you said:
- I’m happy to handle all the parent/teacher conferences while dad works hard to help provide for you
- It’s perfectly fine dad doesn’t know your teachers because I’m doing a good job communicating with him about all your school work but if there was a problem, he’d be happy to meet your teachers to figure out a solution
- I know you want to hang with your friends this weekend and/or visit a museum but time with your dad is more important because you don’t see him as much as you see me or even your friends
What if THAT was the message to your kids instead?
The seeds you plant in their minds will grow… why on earth would you want them to have any internal or external conflict?
Because you’re mad dad?
Not good enough. You can be mad at dad without making him a bad guy to your kids. You can expect more from dad without sharing those expectations with the kids.
Do better moms. Want better for your kids.
More to come,
Tanya S.
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