Welcome to My Blog
“Listening to your heart’s desires isn’t some new concept… it’s not my idea… it’s in centuries old teachings. My friends on this site have modernized and mastered it. They’re my inspiration. My journey, has been about aligning my life and being open to receive what’s in my heart. It needs to be a daily practice for dreams, wants, and hopes to come to pass. That’s alignment. ” - Tanya Bittner
Boundaries
Haven’t written here in awhile. So, hi :). How’ve you been? While you’re thinking about how to answer that, I’ll start with how I have managed lately. The short and sour of it is, I’ve been at the breaking point - since about May of 2020. I’ve had it. Done. Over it....
They always remind you
They may not say it clearly, but they show you undoubtedly. They always remind you why you left. They always remind you how easy they made it for you. They always remind you they never really loved you, not really. They always remind you why you couldn’t count...
Coparent Communication
**EDIT** After almost four months of sticking to the custody arrangement, the parents haven’t needed to communicate and dad reports his life has been so much quieter. It’s a high-conflict divorce, dream. True story: After six years of compliance, mom suddenly...
What if you didn’t say that?
Moms with shared custody, what if you didn’t put a negative spin on everything? What if you didn’t say: Dad never goes to parent/teacher conferences and that’s bad Dad doesn’t know who your teachers are and that’s bad Dad wants to put his time with you before your...
Therapy for Minors
Just a reminder for California moms and dads: You may NOT put your child in therapeutic care without prior consent of BOTH parents. Every post divorce judgment is different but for example, ours states that major decisions including (but not limited to)...
Inhale, Exhale
Because you dm’d me for examples from the last post and I happen to have a few fresh ones 😉 If your ex-spouse is telling your kids about all the fun things they could be doing with her if only they weren’t headed to your place for the (whole) week, that’s manipulation...
Parental Alienation
Here it is: This is how it ends. Awareness. More to come, Tanya S.
Now I Lay Me Down to Sleep
Chapter 1 - The Land of Many Waters **Excerpt** As I walked out of the bathroom, I saw him in the bedroom. He was old, small and ugly. “Maria, come in here.” I pushed the door open all the way, but didn’t go into the bedroom where he was. I couldn’t bear to look...
Come. Freaking. On.
If you are receiving child support from your ex and you share legal and physical custody, YOU ARE IN FACT, *NOT* raising and educating your kids, “on your own.” Stop lying to people 🤥. Most especially if, every-two-weeks of the last six years you’ve received...
Strength, Power, and Grace
Toxic people will project their own unhappiness, character defects and inexcusable behavior by accusing their targets of displaying those exact flaws. Letting someone like this create a false narrative of you is a small price to pay for maintaining the alchemy...